Just read this and wanted to ask is it possible for Ic to come back although mine went for 9 months after i was drinking the tea. I think i need to detox my body to flush the toxins out, why has it stopped working?

It is so hard to try and to explain to others what it’s like to be so miserable all of the time. I have been with my husband for almost 15 years and while he is mostly supportive, he still gets upset if I’m moody or grouchy because I feel so bad. Keep in touch and let us know how you are doing. Take care.

Happy Valentine’s Day . . . the gift of love that you give each other every day is the most important gift that keeps on giving.

Gina
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God Bless,, Jennie from Canada

I do have a chronic illness - it is not serious, but will be with me for life and does cause discomfort. I don’t have a constant pain, or fatigue. I cannot appreciate what it would be like to deal with this on a daily basis. My wife does have a chronic pain condition, so I have a good idea of the effect it has on a person’s life, I also realize how it affects the spouse.
My original post was meant to convey that if a person wallows in their pain, if they let their pain control their life and cause unending unhappiness and sadness, then the spouse really suffers too - it is cruel to expect someone to stick around for this. One of the original deadly sins, “sloth” actually deals with this. Sloth is not being lazy, opriginally it was meant as a quite different sin, as outlined below:
“SLOTH - It had been in the early years of Christianity characterized by what modern writers would now describe as melancholy: apathy, depression, and joylessness — the last being viewed as being a refusal to enjoy the goodness of God and the world God created. Originally, its place was fulfilled by two other aspects, acedia and sadness.”

This “sin” of being joyless to the world is what I find most damaging about chronic pain - it sucks the life out of people, and those around them - but it doesn’t have to be this way.

What responsiblity does the chronically ill spouse have? Perhaps to make the most of each day, to not dwell on their own problems or pains, to make themsleves emotinally available to their spouses (at least once a week), and to try and live “outside” the pain as much as possible. I think it is the chronically ill spouse who gives up the fight, who loses hope, who brings misery into each day, that is the cause for the divorce. When people give up, you can’t live their lives for them. Self-pity is one of the most destructive forces around - I don’t blame spouses who leave after hearing, day-after-day, self-pitying remarks from their signifcant other. Life is too short to spend with people who have given up on it - that’s the truth. We’re not saints, we’re human beings.